User talk:Aspie

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Again, welcome, and we're glad you're joining us! Sincerely,   Perfectionist   (talk) 20:41, 25 October 2022 (UTC)

Gear Infoboxes

Infoboxes I'm gear pages should be under the specific game. The infobox gobbler already pulls all of the Infoboxes to the top of the page. Feel free to correct typos and improve descriptions, but don't change the layout. Besnhasthefun 19:04, 18 November 2022 (UTC)

I've noticed that, but sometimes the infoboxes move to the bottom and I need to move them manually. Don't worry, I'll try not to mess with the layout anymore. Aspie (talk) 19:14, 18 November 2022 (UTC)

Your behavior on Discord

Hello Aspie, to protect our community we have blocked you permanently due to multiple counts of inappropriate content and harassment. If you seek help for your behavior and afterwards feel that you have changed for the better, you may appeal the ban by contacting an admin, at which point Inkipedia staff would review the appeal and let you know whether the request is approved or denied. I hope that you learn from your mistakes before attempting to engage with our community again, and I sincerely wish you well. Heddy (talk) 23:21, 3 May 2023 (UTC)

I understand all of this. But before I go, I want you to hear me out. I don't want you to forgive me, but to understand me Aspie (talk) 13:33, 4 May 2023 (UTC)

So, I've decided to share my story to help you understand why I do behave in such a manner. As I've mentioned, I don't expect forgiveness, I expect understanding. I write this with a calm mind and a will for change.

My problems began when I was 14, when my parents parted ways. My father became extremely aggressive and manipulative towards me, going as far as swearing. I was forced to move with my mother to a smaller flat, trying to help her with the breakdown, while not receiving any support. My symptoms started to appear and have become worse with each month and year, until now.

I also started to identify as a non-binary to escape strict gender norms in my country and due to my relationship with my father.

I've joined Inkipedia to seek support and acceptance from people similar to me, who may finally understand me. The result is the feeling of treason, grief and unfairness. I know I've crossed the line and my removal from the community was understandable, even with all my edits and contributions, but calling me a "creep", "predator" and "thug" was a blow below the belt. I've lost all my friends, who now think of me as a danger. This pushed me to deletion of my Discord account, removal of all my friends from my Nintendo account and my withdrawal from the pool. I don't blame the community or you, since you only fulfil your job, but I blame Trig and Ozwald for accusing me of such things. Insecure as I am, I would never hurt a minor. Please, take action against them, since I'm afraid other people may also fall victim of such accuses. At the same time, I don't propose banning them, but telling them all I've written here. Maybe they will understand.

Anyways, I don't feel resentment towards you. I'm going to therapy in a month, so wish me luck. I shall return and help the wiki when I get better. If you've read all of this, thank you. I appreciate it.

Farewell,

Bruno

Ps. One more thing. Could you show it to all people in the server? I don't want to leave as a criminal. Or rather, I want to explain myself to them. Aspie (talk) 17:49, 5 May 2023 (UTC)

Well, I wasn't going to particularly say anything because simply put I had very little to do with the nature of your ban to begin with. I didn't initiate the conversations or particularly engage much with the nature of your ban from the server nor the wiki because I trusted the staff I work with would appropriately handle the matter of their own accord. That being said, you specifically decided to name drop me so I'll be getting involved. I tend to pride myself on transparency, so let's get started:

You have my condolences for having a rough childhood and mental health struggles. I and many others in the community have also dealt with issues of their own severity and know what it is like to endure mental duress. Despite this, however, it is not an exemption nor a deferral for the actions that you choose to engage in. You chose to engage in conversations that made participants feel uncomfortable and unwelcome, often times long after you have been asked not to. I also do not know what you hope to gain out of mentioning your gender status: It does not impact our decision, and seems like a poor attempt to gain sympathy out of others for yourself.

As for the nature of your messaging around the community, most of it was conducted privately—that does not mean we have not seen the contents of these messages as multiple members were willing to share them with the staff. Some topics and questions that you willingly brought up—often without forewarning, context, or consent to discuss–include: Torture of criminals, requesting to know identifiers such as real names; ages; body shapes; biological sexes; and locations, sex reassignment surgery, making attempts to form romantic relationships, revealing information about a plethora of traumas, and admitting to photographing your classmates without their knowledge or consent. A prominent number of these conversations were with minors, something you should know by now is an actual crime to do if not explicitly creepy. The conversations were frequently initiated despite frequent requests for you to not engage with them further, including myself. To be absolutely transparent, I know myself and two other individuals have filed formal reports to Discord for this behavior.

In regards to public conversations, there were multiple discussions in which you mention the necessity to have a wife, relationship, or engage in polygamy for no reason whatsoever. Most of these conversations did not even have significant relation to the conversations prior, and were often regarded as extremely uncomfortable. You also had a tendency to verbally harass several members of the community that are plural, referring to them as "shapeshifters" or "transformers", despite frequent requests to stop that, you persisted to do so. Furthermore, it was stated you only utilize the Inkipedia platform when "agitated" which many would see as concerning.

I had ultimately very little personal attachment to the situation as is. The only major thing for a significant amount of time was your insistence to learn what my actual name is, both via DMs and voice chats, to which I brushed off and ultimately ignored. Instead, you decide to go attack my partner demanding to know what my age is in front of me in a public space, and proceeding by asking highly invasive questions about the nature of our relationship. When this failed, you followed another user to private messages to continue the speculation of my personal information. If it was a personal server of mine, I would have banned you right then and there, but I so graciously gave the benefit of doubt and instead voted in the group decision that led to your expulsion.

The decisions that the wiki staff make are entirely independent of the server staff. As someone who has directly been impacted by the opposite, I have ensured this to be the case. That being said, the decisions of the server staff and particularly myself are final; I will be explicitly clear: I will not tolerate someone who makes my community feel uncomfortable, unsafe, inappropriate, or otherwise a threat to the overall wellbeing of the group. Despite you asking for forgiveness, you acknowledge that you cannot excuse your own willingly chosen actions and actively crossed multiple lines knowing exactly where they were drawn. This behavior is inexcusable to me, my peers, and the general body of Inkipedia members that are directly impacted by your actions. I fully stand by my ban message used: no thugs in our house. Trig Jegman - 00:51, 6 May 2023 (UTC)

Hello,

I've reflected on my mistakes and I feel to return. I'm not going to join the Discord server yet, only editing and helping the wiki. Aspie (talk) 07:24, 25 May 2023 (UTC)

Hello, you were blocked because we believe your presence is unsafe for other users. Based on the severity of your ban reason, Inkipedia staff have decided to keep the block in place. I like to think that people can change for the better, but realistically I don't think anyone can change that much in such a short time, and for that reason it would be ineffective for you to request to be unblocked without waiting a great deal of time first. Heddy (talk) 01:36, 26 May 2023 (UTC)

May I return now? I've truly changed for the better and I regret my actions. Aspie (talk) 09:11, 20 June 2023 (UTC)

It has been not even one month. The scope that you should be even possibly be considering for returning is multiple months to years. Trig Jegman - 15:57, 20 June 2023 (UTC)

Then I'd like to leave Inkipedia for good. Please, delete my account, user page, user talk and other data related. I've had enough.

By the way, the date I was blocked was 5th May. That means around 46 days have passed since then, which is more than a month. Aspie (talk) 17:32, 20 June 2023 (UTC)

Six months have passed since I left. I've been on psychotherapy and medicine. The recovery advances extremely well.

I'm sorry for everything Aspie (talk) 10:01, 3 November 2023 (UTC)